You know how you get to the end of the day, and you sigh because you must prepare dinner. You’re not the only one who finds cooking dinner daily a chore. Cooking can cause tension in a relationship or between married couples when it comes down to deciding what to cook every night and who will do the cooking. According to a relationship expert, cooking together can be very healthy. It’s more than just putting food on the table every night.
When a couple engages in activities at home, their relationship is strengthened. Home is where the hearts are, they say. Spending time at home with your partner can help you thrive. “Creating memories at home can nourish your sacred relationship as intimacy and privacy are important. Prioritizing each person makes them feel loved.”
The Benefits of Cooking as a Couple
There are many ways to break up the routine of cooking. Bronstein shares how couples can improve their relationship by cooking together, whether regularly or occasionally.
Serving others is a way to show love.
Bronstein explains that many people use the phrase “food is love,” which could not be truer. You and your partner may have enjoyed some delicious meals on a date, or perhaps you treat each other with a particular food when one of you feels low ( Chocolate, anyone?). She says that cooking with your partner or for them is a great way to share, give, and receive love. Finding common ground over food, no matter what your language of love is, is a wonderful way to show love to someone. Doing something nice for them is also a good way to show appreciation.
You don’t need to cook together to create a bond. Switching off the cooking is also effective. If the couple can come up with a plan that suits them, then more power to them. They can order in or have dates with each other.
Practice Working Together
You’ll be communicating, sharing responsibilities and practicing some patience. You will be sharing responsibilities and perhaps even practicing patience! Cooking together requires cooperation and planning. Bronstein says, “I believe that a couple who cooks together will stay together.”
Shared Responsibilities
Bronstein suggests that if one partner feels they are cooking more, they discuss why cooking together is better or splitting the responsibility more. Bronstein says that some people don’t mind doing all the cooking, but for those who think there should be greater equality in the kitchen I suggest being honest with your partner. Start the conversation by saying ‘I love’, then express your gratitude for everything they do for you. Then add your request with compassion and love. You can tell them that you enjoy cooking for them, but you’d appreciate if they would cook for you at least some of the time.